Love is a beautiful thing, no doubt about it. Once you have experienced love in your life between the sexes you know it well and can never compromise on such. I opine ‘love’ is not conditioned, neither can you fake, force or will it into being. Love is reactionary, it is unquestionable and it is clearly seen between two people that both love equally. Quite frankly it is an extremely powerful emotion and for some can be mind altering to say the least.
I likened it to being constantly intoxicated with a beat and tempo that is pure excitement. ‘Boi oh boi’ I love this thing called love. As we flow through life that kind of love does not dissipate. We have heard of couples whose love was of such a powerful connection that as soon as one ‘dies’, the other follows suit naturally. I make no apologies that’s my kind of love.
With that said far too often we confuse lust for love. The sooner we address the truth about both passions/emotions; we can define love or ones expectation of love more clearly. Oh, for those who sing this sankey, ‘ a nuh who u luv but a who luv u time a run out an u a get ole’. I say simply this………’a settle u a tell ppl fi settle. An wen dem eye start wonder u ready fi come chop up and kill’.
Nothing is more sweet, blissful than loving someone that loves you in return equally. Love triumphs yes, as long as you are in truth!!!
When love speaks,
The voice of all the Gods
Makes heaven drowsy,
With the harmony.
— Shakespeare, Love’s Labour Lost, IV,3
SO many words have been spoken about love throughout the centuries and up to modern time. There have been books, plays, poems, movies, songs and now Internet stuff all extolling the power of this force, which is still a mystery to us all.
Yes, it is a mystery, for even now science cannot truly explain what love really is or how it works. Why do you love one person but not the other?
Some say it’s caused by chemical reactions in our brains, while others say that it’s merely a conversion of emotions. There are those cynics who say that it’s only heightened lust. They say, they say, and they say, but the definition of love still eludes them.
What is not elusive is the fact that love is real, and not only real but triumphs over everything else. The Good Book said, ‘of faith, hope, and love, the greatest of all is love’.
‘How do I love thee, let me count the ways,’ said the romantic poets.
Many have felt its power, while others have experienced the pain of not being loved
in return. Whatever the experience, the fact is love always triumphs, even though it might not be to your liking.
We’ll see how, right after these responses to ‘Nobody nuh want yuh’.
I read your article and trust me, it’s like you were talking to me. I am in and out of relationships because I don’t like men who are mean, but only want sex. I put my cards on the table and tell them that love can’t pay my bills. These men don’t want to mind or support me with my bills, clothes, you name it. Here I am in America dating a Jamaican man who is mean, so I cut him off and have nobody now. It’s like these men only want one thing but not giving anything in return. They are all the same and don’t seem to want me at all but only what I can give them.
White Plains, NY
Regarding your footnote where you said that it’s time to evaluate the relationship if your partner answers the phone during lovemaking. You are being generous. I say if you’re having a romantic dinner in a restaurant and your partner answers their phone or texts, get up and walk out. I have been teased by my friends about me not having my phone on when they’re trying to reach me. My phone is merely a tool and I will not be enslaved by it. Maybe I’m old school, but I have been called worse.
Alexander G Bell
Now, I’m not being mushy or overly romantic because I write about love and its effects on people. But just recently I heard this man on one of those radio call-in shows appealing to his wife for forgiveness. He was calling from Portland I think, and with his quivering voice, he begged the host if he could publicly apologise to his wife for what he did.
Apparently they had an argument and he said things that he ought not to have said, he explained, so he wanted her, and indeed the entire Jamaica, to know that he was truly sorry for his indiscretions.
Bear in mind that this was not a counsellor advice show like Dear Pastor, but a middle-of-the-day hot topic programme where issues from politics to current affairs hold sway, yet this man felt obliged to call and apologise to his wife of 25 years. Not only was he a real man to do that, but it also showed the power of love, which triumphed.
Many men with their bravado, macho image and cynicism would never do that. But true love overrides all those and always triumphs.
Another man on the Suzanne Show on TV expressed that he would climb a macca tree stark naked to show his love for his woman. Do I have to explain that ‘macca’ means thorns in our vernacular? I hope not, for everywhere you turn, macca juk you.
Anyway, in all those instances, love is the overarching, overriding factor that lets people do things that they wouldn’t normally do. Of course, there are many types of love, as in the love of parents for their children, brotherly and sisterly love, love of friends and love of family.
But I’m referring to the romantic love that almost every human being craves, so much so that some people will even attempt to buy it. But that’s one thing that money cannot buy, although some people really think so. Money may buy affection or sex, but it cannot buy true love.
Oh sure, there are some people who will say, “I don’t want to be in love or have anybody love me.” But they lie. That’s because they were perhaps hurt once by a false love and never want to experience that pain again. What they really mean is, “I don’t want to be hurt again.”
But if they could be sure that true love could come their way, they would certainly welcome it. Remember the words from the Beatles song, “Do you need anybody, I just want someone to love… could it be anybody, I just want someone to love…”
Even the great writers asked the question, “Is it better to have loved and lost or never to have loved at all?” To me, that’s a no-brainer, for a life bereft of love is no life at all. At least even if you lost at love you could still say, “I loved once, and someone loved me in return.” You can live off the memories.
True love will always triumph even through the most difficult times. I know this lady whose husband got very sick about 10 years ago. She’s still in her prime, but throughout his illness she never once left his side. Her friends and family implored her to put him in an institution and get on with her life along with her son and young daughter. But she still sticks to that man who was once strong, hale and hearty, but sadly no more, as he hardly even recognises her or anybody else. That is love triumphing. ‘Through sickness and health, till death do us part’ is taken seriously by her.
I have seen young women take up with older married men, and as soon as the man got sick he’s deposited back to his wife. “Here, take him back, he’s not my problem.” Some wives do take them back, as the love is still there on their part.
Love will triumph through all adversity and will always rise to the top. Many people profess love and like to hear the words spoken.
“Tell me you love me.”
“I love you, I love you, I love you.”
But it’s the action that counts, and the proof of the pudding is always in the eating.
So many women have been told those words, but were left at the altar. Some never even got a whiff of the church. So many men thought that women loved them, only to catch them in the arms of another man… or woman. There was no love in the first place, so no triumph.
But how can you know if love is there? I always tell my wife that the true test of love is to do this experiment: lock your dog and your wife in two car trunks for one hour. When you eventually open them, compare who is happier to see you. Luckily we don’t own a dog or I know that I’d be in the dog house for pulling a stunt like that. But if any of you wish to try it, please let me know the result of your findings.
Love should be forgiving, right? Plus there was this famous line from the movie Love Story, ‘Love means never having to say you’re sorry.’
But seriously folks, people who live without love are usually angry, bitter, sad, cynics with a negative outlook on life. With love in your heart, those feelings are vanquished.
People who love and are loved have something and someone to live for, someone to go home to.
I’m not preaching, but history can corroborate the fact that true love triumphs, always.
Footnote: Have you noticed that shame no longer exists? There was a time when people would say, “Shame on you for doing that, shame on you.” Now, many folks have no idea what this means. People will rob, plunder, embezzle, lie and tief milk outa coffee without shame. As the saying goes, ‘Yu shame tree dead.’
In some Eastern countries, even now, people will commit ritual suicide because of shame, as they just couldn’t live with the guilt of what they had done. “I have brought great shame to my family, I will commit seppuku at once.” Not here, as prominent people flout the law, yet still want to hold on to their positions as they have no shame.
Others will lie to your face with no shame. These words you will never hear nowadays, “I am ashamed for what I did.” I guess shame went the same way as honour and integrity did. What a shame. To all the mothers and especially my wonderful better half, have a blessed Mother’s Day. Mothers are special.